How To Support Your Nephew with ADHD: Insights from a Clinical Psychologist and Mother
- Dr. Ashley Houchin
- May 20
- 3 min read
As a clinical psychologist, I often see how ADHD can impact not just the child but also the entire family. Recently, my 7-year-old son received a diagnosis of ADHD-combined type. This experience has unveiled both the struggles and the charming quirks of raising a child with this condition. My sister has been curious about how she, as an aunt, can support her nephew. Below are my top three suggestions based on my experiences as both a professional and a mother.
Engage with Intent
Children with ADHD often struggle with paying attention, making them feel like they are in their own world. If you find yourself calling his name multiple times without a response, there are more effective ways to engage him.
Instead of shouting, try physically approaching him. A gentle tap on the shoulder or a soft nudge can be more effective. For instance, if he's engrossed in a favorite video game but needs to get ready for dinner, instead of calling out from the kitchen, walk into the room and give him that gentle reminder. This method not only captures his attention but also prevents any frustration that may arise from feeling ignored.
This approach helps to create a positive interaction, encouraging him to respond without associating it with negative feelings. Positive engagement can lead to a stronger bond.
Connect Genuinely
Creating a genuine connection can have lasting benefits for both of you. When you engage with him, ensure that you are fully present. If you are busy, it’s better to be upfront about it. Children appreciate honesty and will recognize that everyone gets distracted from time to time.
When you do have a moment, dive into his interests. If he loves dinosaurs, for example, ask him about his favorite species or the coolest dinosaur facts he knows. As you listen, share some fun facts of your own. This not only strengthens your bond but also boosts his self-esteem. Children who feel supported and understood are often more resilient. By creating a space where he can freely express his thoughts and feelings, you help him feel valued.
Be His Aunt
Being an aunt goes beyond just sharing family ties. It's about enjoying and cultivating your unique relationship. Create moments that are joyful and fun. Play silly games with him, take him out for ice cream, or read his favorite book together.
For example, if you both enjoy outdoor activities, plan a nature walk where you can go on a "bug safari" looking for different insects. Such shared experiences can build a strong emotional bond. Your playful interactions enable him to see you as a confidant and a source of comfort, which is crucial for his emotional well-being. Children with ADHD often thrive in environments where they feel safe and loved.
Final Thoughts
Supporting a child with ADHD can be both rewarding and challenging. By engaging with intent, nurturing genuine connections, and fully embracing your role as his aunt, you create a supportive atmosphere that encourages his growth. Your love and attention are invaluable gifts that he will carry with him throughout his life.
As a clinical psychologist and a mother, I encourage you to implement these strategies. Building loving relationships requires time and effort, but the rewards—for both you and your nephew—are tremendous.
What insights or experiences do you have when it comes to supporting a child with ADHD? Your contributions could be invaluable to another parent or relative navigating this beautiful yet complex journey.
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